Thinking About Adoption
Adoption is an option for couples for a variety of reasons. Some couples are unable to conceive a child naturally, while others want to provide a good home for a child that might not otherwise have one. Whatever the reason, adoption can be a rewarding alternative for both parents and adopted children. Before an adopted child can be brought home, couples should have a plan for the adoption. This plan should include getting the house ready for the new addition to the family as well as preparing other children for an expanded family. Below are a few things to consider about planning for adoption.
Preparing the Home
Getting the adopted child’s room ready is one way to prepare for the arrival. Once a room has been selected, parents should take into consideration the age of the child. This can help determine a fun and fresh coat of paint, bedding, furniture and other room decorations. It’s also important to make sure the child’s room is clean and pleasant, and will be a haven for the adopted child. In addition, if the adopted child is an infant or toddler, the room should be childproofed and any breakable or potentially dangerous objects should be removed.
Health care is a concern for most parents. Children require regular checkups and vaccinations, and sometimes, they get sick and require medication. Health insurance helps cover these costs and ensures that children have access to proper medical care. Parents should check with their employers and health care providers to see what the policy is on adoptive children. Most health insurance agencies offer full benefits for adoptive children, and require the child to be enrolled in the plan within thirty days of the adoption.
Another concern for most parents is childcare. Before a couple adopts a child, they should decide if one parent will be a stay at home mom or dad. If not, the couple will need to discuss childcare options. Many employers allow for maternity or paternity leave for adoptions, but the length of time varies. When the child arrives, it will be very important to spend some time and bond with the child, so asking about an employer’s policy before can be beneficial in planning this time. Additionally, some childcare facilities will care for a child as young as six weeks, while others will not provide care until the child is a year or older.
Children can be very expensive, and adoptive children are no different. Before a couple adopts, it will be important to make a financial plan that should include money for education, clothes, food, entertainment, etc. Mapping out a financial plan before the child arrives will make the transition for both parents and the adoptive child easier and smoother, as well as allowing for more time to spend focusing on the new child.
Preparing Family Members
If there are other children in the house, it’s a good idea to spend some time talking about the adopted child before they arrive. This will help prepare children for the upheaval in their family life. It can also stop a child from feeling jealous of the attention the adoptive child receives. It can also give the children already in the home a sense of anticipation and excitement to expand their family.
Adoption can be a rewarding experience for both parents and children. However, it is also a big change to the household and the family. Making a plan, and preparing the family and house for the new addition can take the stress out of adoption. This paves the way for families to spend time together and form a good foundation that will last the rest of their life.